How am I Going To Respond?
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It was a long travel day and I sure didn’t need this challenge. Check out the story here.
A Third Date
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I was heading home from a church service on Sunday and as I was driving along the country road I looked to my left and saw a graveyard. I wouldn’t even call it a cemetery because it was just a piece of land with probably 20 headstones on it. Well, that really piqued my interest and so I made a U-turn and went back and checked it out. (see photo above)
The piece of land was up on a little bit of a hill but there was no buildings around it. Across the street was a barn covered in kudzu vines as well as a rundown home. I did not see a church or any building close by the graveyard. As I looked at the old headstones, I noticed that some indicated deaths as far back as 1812 and same as recent as 1947. On each of the headstones, there were two dates…date of birth and date of death
I've often heard it said that we really need to be more intentional about the dash and not the two dates as we go through life. This is true but that discussion is for another post. Today, I want us to consider another date…the day our name will be said for the last time this side of heaven. Now that’s a sobering thought?
Until Jesus Christ comes back, I think there are some names that will never not be said – for good or for bad. Names like George Washington, Hitler, Desmond Tutu, Attila the Hun, Martin Luther, etc. But for most of us, there will be a day that our name will be uttered for the last time.
Let’s live lives that cause our name to be reminded for generations not because we are so wonderful but because we were ordinary folks that did extraordinary things for our great God!
At the Finish Line, What Really Matters?
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Last week I mused about the impact of relationships and how much they matter. As I shared, one of the reasons for these musings was the battle that one of my mentors, Bob Shank, is going through. As only God would have it, Bob wrote in his weekly Point of View (he has missed a few since being diagnosed but after this one it looks like he is back on track) about relationships.
Check it out below:
Is your story in sand, or stone?
It was on a RCA television – black-and-white, 18” diagonal screen – that I saw my first movie, The Ten Commandments. Made in 1956 by Cecil B. DeMille, it was the epic Bible drama (which allowed it to pass muster for our family entertainment). I was probably six when I managed to sit through the whole 3:40 runtime that made Charlton Heston, for me, forever Moses.
In true Hollywood style, DeMille spiced the film with credible backstories that kept the Bible essentials intact while adding human interest to the mix. In the Oscar-winning version, the conflict between Heston’s Moses and Yul Brynner’s Rameses created palpable tension as the two young men – raised together in Pharaoh’s palace but contending for the approval of Rameses’ father, Seti I – sought to become the likely successor to the throne.
Through intrigue, Rameses manages to betray Moses to his father through misinterpretation of the care extended by Moses to the Jews whom he had learned to be his real familial community.
Sir Cedric Hardwicke played the role of the aging Pharaoh Seti I; his unilateral sentence dismissing Moses from Egypt to become a desert wanderer caught my attention in a way that stunned me as if the story reflected true life. His pronouncement: “Let the name of Moses be stricken from every book and tablet. Stricken from every pylon and obelisk of Egypt. Let the name of Moses be unheard and unspoken, erased from the memory of man, for all time.”
I was six years old, for heaven’s sake, but the idea of the hero that Heston was on that screen being canceled… Continue reading here
Short Haul or Long Term
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I have heard it said that there are only two things that last in this world: the Word of God and relationships. Everything else will disappear! Houses, cars, careers, accolades, church buildings, “likes”, followers, etc. All will be gone one day.
Now, I don’t want to get into a debate if this is 100% true or biblically spot on but I do ask you to at least pencil it in. A mentor and friend of mine, Bob Shank is in the midst of a fight for his life against the wicked disease of leukemia. (Side note: another mentor and friend whom I met the same time I met Bob, Jim West, is currently battling cancer at MD Anderson in Houston. Prayers for both men would be appreciated.) Why I highlight Bob is because of the outpouring of love that is happening since the diagnosis of leukemia.
Both blood and platelet donors are coming in daily at his hospital, City of Hope. People are being tested as potential bone marrow donors. (Praise the Lord that one of his grandsons is a match!) Thousands are visiting his CaringBridge site and comments are coming in from around the nation.
Bob has faithfully, consistently, and deeply invested in the lives of men and women through teaching the Word of God in such a way that transformation happens. The content that he created in The Master’s Program has saved lives, marriages, careers and callings. People matter to Bob and because of his investing in their lives, these people do not hesitate to raise their hands and want to be a part.
Recently I read a quote by Sheila Lirio Marcelo, founder of Care, that really resonated with me.
My advice is to focus on the importance of forging a long-term relationship, whether with colleagues, partners, or customers. It is often easy to get caught up in short-term decisions.
I am blessed to have numerous long-term relationships:
Daily Wordle group text with people that I have known for almost 30 years
Dinner this Friday with friends that I have known for 45 years
Going to visit friends in Edisto Beach next month that I have known for 17 years
Annual post-Christmas gathering with folks that I have known for over 20 years
What about you? How are your relationships going? Are you investing for the long haul or just for the moment? You can’t make old friends quickly but you can start today and before you know it, they will be old friends. If you have old friends, send them this song by Ben Rector. It will bless them!
Perfect Not Equal to Best
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The winter Olympics are happening now and I have not really caught much of them this year but I know enough that in many of the events the judges are rating the performances on a scale. The closer you are to the top number the better the performance is judged. I remember watching in 1976 when Nadia Comaneci scored a perfect 10 on the uneven bars. After that, anything less than a perfect 10 was a failure.
I tend to apply this same philosophy to the goals in my life… “If I can’t do it perfectly, then why do it or worse yet just quit if not perfect. For example, one of my 2022 goals is to write a blog a week and the plan was to post it each Monday. Well, yesterday got away from me and I never wrote one let alone posted it. So this morning as I was reviewing my to-do list from yesterday and making one for today, I thought, “Scratch that off the list and I will do it next Monday.” But wait, why? I am the one that created the arbitrary “rule” of posting on Mondays – I can change that rule. As Jon Acuff says, “I am my own CEO and I am a good boss!” So here I am…not being perfect but still moving the ball down the court. Still posting, even if it is “late.”
While I am confessing, I will share another “failure.” In 2022, I want to read a specific number of books in specific genres. I have been reading and getting lots done but not recording the activity. I really have no idea how many books I have read or what genres. However, as I looked over at my journal that I use to keep track of my goals I thought, “Well, why not start now? It is only 6 weeks into a year.” And guess what? I am on track to meet my goal!
What about you? Has perfectionism gotten in the way of finishing something? Have you quit because 85% is not good enough for you? Are you pursuing perfect rather than excellence? Don’t let a setback be a setup for failure. Get up, dust yourself off and start again. Love what Albert Einstein says, “It is only a failure if you quit trying.” Here’s to less than perfect!!!
PS If you checked out the video of Nadia Comaneci, the score board could not display a 10 because it had never been done before. I think there is a spiritual lesson in that as well.
Oops!!!
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This morning I had a meeting with a new mentee who lives in Jakarta, Indonesia. Despite being 12 time zones away, through the wonder of the internet and a Zoom account, we were able to have an hour-long meeting as if we were in the same room. (Side note: it is not the same as being in a room together but the is a topic for another post.) I was connected to this mentee via Resource Global and through their cohort program whose purpose is to prepare them to use their unique talents and influence to make an impact for the Gospel in their communities. I have been blessed to be a part of this annual program since 2018.
What I have learned in these dozens of mentoring sessions is that the best thing I bring to the table are my mistakes. The lessons I share usually do not come out of the huge wins that I may have been a part of but rather when I have dropped the ball or not acted at all like a disciple of Christ should act – and then my response to these situations. Character is not built during hard times but rather revealed.
Recently, I read this quote from Arianna Huffington, co-founder of The Huffington Post:
We need to accept that we won’t always make the right decisions, that we’ll screw up royally sometimes – understanding that failure is not the opposite of success, it’s part of success.
Owning up to a mistake is one of the hardest things for many of us to do but not owning it just causes more pain. The fallout is usually much worse. There are five steps we need to take when we “screw up royally”:
1. Admit it. Don’t hide it or excuse it away but raise your hand and say, “Yep…that is on me.”
2. Ask for forgiveness. Any error we have committed has hurt or offended someone. Seek forgiveness from them as well as from God. (Side note #2: our job is to seek forgiveness not to get it…some people are not willing to receive it. We cannot fix that.)
3. Discern from yourself, others, and God how to avoid this from happening again.
4. Seek God’s help to be transformed.
5. Check back with others to see how you are doing with this transformation.
How are you doing with your mistakes? When was the last time you made a mistake? How did you respond? What character (good or bad) was revealed? What did you learn from it?
I would love to hear and would be happy to share some of my mistakes with you. Please grab a time on my calendar for a quick 15-minute call or contact me via email.
How Can This Be?
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As I was driving home from dinner this evening, my mind was full of several distressing circumstances in my life and in the lives of those around me. One of my mentors is in the hospital with a sickness that the doctors can’t figure out how to best treat. A friend’s husband of fewer than 2 years is also in the hospital in a fight for his life. Another friend’s mom is frail and feeble, and some decisions need to be made. Meanwhile, another friend is having relational conflicts that 2 years ago would have seemed utterly impossible…yet, here they are.
What keep bouncing in my mind was the question, “How can this be?” How can these amazing people be going through these trying times? How can these people survive (and in some cases thrive) in these insurmountable circumstances? How can the God who loves these folks (and you) not intervene?
I do not have the answer to those questions…maybe some guesses or assumptions but nothing that I am willing to hang my hat on except the fact that we are living in a fallen world. Since the Garden of Eden, the prince of evil has been spreading his darkness everywhere. And, I am so glad that we have an answer for sin and that is Jesus Christ, and one day we will see Him face to face. But, in the meantime, it just might be a mean time.
If you are in a “mean” time right now, there are three little snippets that I would like you to consider. One is for relational challenges, one for surprise attacks, and one for hurts…check out the one that best applies to your life today and save the rest for a future time.
Relational Challenges:
I thank You for the friends who’ve failed to meet my soul’s deep need…They’ve driven me to the Savior’s feet upon His love to feed. I’m grateful too, through all life’s way no one could satisfy. And so I’ve found in You alone my rich, my full supply! ~Florence White Willett
I have this little poem memorized because I need it. I often go to people to meet my soul’s deep needs instead of Jesus and they just can’t do it. This reminder keeps me focused on the main thing.
Surprise Attacks
Servant of Christ, that unexpected thing that has you in a tailspin…Jesus saw it coming all along. He’s fully prepared for it and has prepared you for it more than you realize. Don’t panic or knee-jerk. Don’t assume the worst. Seek His wisdom, confident you’ll receive it and you will. ~Beth Moore
The Sovereign of God is often my Anchor, and it is secure during the storm.
Hurts
When we invite our God, Healer of the broken, to heal the pain, thoughts, and emotions then He truly will. He can create a life where it may not always seem perfect, but it’ll always be light because God is carrying the situation with one hand and holding you with the other. He is both the God of power over your situations and the God of love carrying you through. Hidden in Plain Sight by Nash Pillay
God is able to be both at the same time.
Not sure where this finds you. You may be in the middle of some extremely difficult times, or you might be coming out on the other side. Let’s remember that these fiery trials do not come by accident but by the hand of God to test our faith. How are you doing on the test?
A Life Well Lived
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Living a legacy for future generations is driving value in my life. I have heard it said that there are three significant dates in our lives in determining the impact of one’s legacy whether good or bad….
1. The day you were born.
2. The day you die.
3. The day someone says your name for the last time
Still talking about George Washington, William Shakespeare, Julius Cesar, Attila the Hun, Genghis Khan, and of course, Jesus Christ. We may not know all the details about their lives but for the most part, their names are recognized still today.
Last week, as we marked the birthdays of Dr. Martin Luther King and Betty White, I learned that Anne Frank and Dr. King were both born in 1929 while Betty White was born in 1922. Did you catch that? Betty was 7 years old when Dr. King and Anne Frank were born.
As you probably already know, Anne Frank died in a German concentration camp in 1945 at the age of 16 while Dr. King was assassinated in 1968 in Memphis, TN at the age of 39. Meanwhile, Betty lived to be 99 years 11 months and 16 days, and died in her sleep on the last day of 2021.
What legacy have these people left? In 2019, the Anne Frank Museum in Amsterdam saw over 1M visitors. Even in the COVID year of 2020, almost 400K walked through the doors that told the story of occupied Holland during WW1. This was 75 years after her death.
One of the YouTube videos of Dr. King’s famous speech, I Have a Dream, has over 16M views and counting. This was over 50 years after his death.
As much as I loved many of Betty White’s characters, routines, and humor, I don’t think that Millions will be lining up to watch her skits in 50 years. And she had decades more time to make an impact.
As a believer in Jesus Christ, I am not wanting to have millions of views of a message I gave, or a museum created to tell my story, unless somehow God is gloried in that. However, I do want to hear “well done” when standing before the Lord. I do want to have lived a life in such a way that there will be an eternal impact made. I do want to have lived a life that reflects excellent stewardship in all that I have been given.
What about you? Is leaving an eternal legacy important to you? What are you doing today to hear a “well done” on that Day? Love to hear your thoughts…please drop them in the comments below or reach out to me heres://www.beckyturner.com/contact.
Looking for the Horse
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I did something today that I have never done before. Having lived a full life I have done some amazing things and been blessed to be a part of this great adventure with God, so it is not often that I do a new thing. But today I did. It was not super scary or amazing, but I do believe it will have an impact on my day and hopefully my week and life.
What did I do? I read out loud Dr. Martin Luther King’s “I Have a Dream” speech and, oh man, I am so glad I did. Of course, I knew about the speech and had heard some of it but not all of it. As I read his words, written under a tree in Virginia almost two years before I was born, my eyes filled with tears and my heart hurt for the injustices that were (and in some rare, Lord willing, instances still are) existing. I know that this will not be the last time I read it and I encourage you to read it out loud as well (see transcript here) or watch the YouTube of his speech.
However, the point of this blog is not to talk about the racial injustices in our country but to talk about two points I believe Dr. King was making – character matters and all we do is to expedite the return of Christ. So, as I wiped the tears from my eyes I had to ask myself, “Does my character – my behavior, my tasks, my priorities – do they reflect Christ?” and secondly, “Do they expedite the return of the Lord of lords, Jesus Christ?” Good questions that I need to not just ask on MLK day but each morning as I start my day and each night as I lay my head on the pillow.
Do you ask yourself any probing questions? Do you challenge yourself to pursue God’s Kingdom at all costs? Do you long to see the sky break open and Jesus coming on His white horse? Oh, I so pray you do. Would love to hear your thoughts in the comments below or reach out to me here.
Wrenches!
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Last week I spent a good bit of time in meetings, prayers, and discussions about my plan for this week. I booked multi-city flights, secured hotel rooms, rented cars, and brainstormed the outcomes for my meetings. I even had planned out my food. By the end of the day on Friday, I was good to go and could enter my weekend ready to hit it on Monday.
This all come to a screeching halt after I received a couple of frantic calls on Saturday and then numerous wisdom-seeking discussions on Sunday. All the details, I had made were now out the window and the proverbial wrench had been thrown into my carefully planned agenda. What I had thought would happen was out the door. I was back to step 1…actually step 0 because I had to cancel all the previous plans and book the new plans. I don’t think it’s Biblical but it’s pretty close: Man plans and God laughs.
COVID has been a major wrench in all of our lives. It has brought disruptions in life…chaos in families…havoc in businesses..and unbelievable stress in our world. But what I have noticed was those who were pliable…the restaurants who were innovative; the brides who went with the flow; the churches who found new avenues of ministry did well. And, in many cases, actually thrived!
Wrenches aren’t fun for anyone, not even professional problem solvers like me. And the waste of effort when having to redo stuff can get on my last nerve. But, when I accept the change, walk in the Sovereignty of NOTHING taking God by surprise and choose joy in the midst of the disruptions, my soul is at peace and the wrench ends up being another opportunity for me to walk in the fruit of the Spirit.
What wrenches have come into your life? How are you responding? How are you adapting? How are you innovating? How are you trusting?
As a problem solver, I love helping others with their wretches. Contact me here or comment below if you want to visit about your wretch.
May your wrenches lead to wisdom that leads to worship!!
Slow and Steady
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You have heard me say before that leaders are learners…well, here is new learning for you today. The famous author of over 725 fables, Aesop, was a Greek slave. I did not know that, did you? According to WorldHistory.org, the fables were written by Aesop in the late to the mid-6th century. These fables were told person to person for both entertainment purposes as well as to teach a morality lesson.
As 2022 launches, I am reminded of one of his most famous fables, The Hare and the Tortoise. You remember the story…the hare and the tortoise are racing, and the hare starts out fast and strong meanwhile the tortoise just plods along. Before long, the hare stops for a nap to wait for the tortoise to catch up. As the tortoise passes him, he does not wake up and the tortoise wins the race. Moral of the story: the race is not always to the swiftest.
So, for 2022, why not just take it slow and steady? I know the goal experts will say don’t make goals too easy, but I follow what Jon Acuff has to say – make them easily achievable because then you have these small victories that motivate you to keep on the same track. Then you set another easily achievable goal. Here are a few slow and steady goals to think about:
• Loss .5 pound per week = 26 pounds in a year
• Write 300 words per weekday = 63,00 words in a year (average length of a book today is 100,000)
• Read 15 minutes a day = over 90 hours of reading a year
• Save $5 a day = $1,825 per year
• Walk a mile a day = Walking from Macon, GA to Tampa, FL
What do you want to accomplish this year? Where on the race of life do you want to be on January 1, 2023?
Let me know in the comments below or connect with me here. Let’s not just exist in 2022 but let’s improve ourselves, impact our world and advance the Gospel. If there is any way I can help you do that, please do not hesitate to be in touch. It would be my joy!
Take Control of Yourself
/What are you needing to master in your day? What or who has control over your calendar that you want to change? Let me know. I am here to help.
Work is Part of Life
/There is no one that we admire that did not get there the easy way. Breaks may have come but it still took work to get there.
Love or Fear…Can You Have Both?
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My two favorite topics in school have always been history and math. While in college, I actually took a junior level history class as an elective…basically just for fun. It was on 20th century American history and I think I still have the text book I enjoyed it so much. But I also love a good math problem and one of my regrets from college is that I did not take statistics. I think there’s a little bit of “geekiness” in me.
Regardless of what your favorite subject is I’d like you to go back to algebra for just a bit and look at the one of the algebraic laws: if a equals b then b equals a. A math example would be (1x4) = (2x2). I want to carry that same logic over to a portion of the passage in I John 4:18, “Perfect love casts out fear.” My theory (and it is definitely a theory so please just write this in pencil and not permeant ink) is that if love casts out fear then fear casts out love. Where fear is, love (except the love of self) cannot reside.
Now, this is not something that is going to go in a text book and cause high schoolers to cram all night for an exam but it sure does make me think through what is happening when I am afraid. But before diving into that, let’s take a moment and define fear. First, fear is a biological response to an internal or external stimulus. When we’re afraid, our bodies will go into “fight or flight” mode. Your heart rate goes up and your adrenaline increases. This response arise from within or without. Thinking about losing your job (internal stimulus) causes fear. Coming face-to-face with a grizzly bear (external stimulus) also causes fear.
If you are anything like me, most fears are internally created. We are afraid because of what we think will happen rather than what is actually happening. What we feel is real but the circumstances we’re imagining are not. And when we are in that mode, we become extremely self focused and myopic – protect myself at all costs. When this is the case, the ability to love others becomes almost impossible because true love involves thinking of someone else over one’s own needs or wants.
In some ways, fear is both a natural and helpful part of what it means to be human. But if fear gets out of control, it can take over and prevent us from enjoying life. When we’re consumed by fear, we can’t be present for others or do the things we love. Overwhelming fear affects our health, saps our strength, makes it difficult to concentrate, and robs us of sleep.
It also keeps us from taking any risks. If we’re afraid, we won’t start new businesses, write books, or initiate relationships. We’ll constantly play it safe, always trying to insulate ourselves from any negative consequences. When we play it safe, we don’t grow. We stagnate. We miss out on great opportunities.
This is true any time but no more true right now in the midst of this Covid-19 pandemic. As you make decisions for yourself and your family, please check your fear factor. Are you doing or not doing something because you are afraid? Are you not living life fully because the fear of contracting this novel corona virus is stopping you?
If you are one who battles with fear (or anxiety or worry), you may want to join me for a 15 minute webinar this Friday the 22nd at 11 am Eastern time. You can register for that event here. If that time is not good for you, why don’t you go ahead and register and I will send you the webinar recording Friday afternoon? Again, here is the registration link.
But with God….
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Quiet Times are Not Just for the Super Spiritual
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The year was 1992 and I was super young in the faith. I was still processing through all of the church words…justification, sanctification, glorification, transformation, propitiation, etc. (And I am so sad to say that I find myself now using these words around non-believers. It was a foreign language to me back then.)
I was still trying to identify what was right and what was wrong. Drinking? Cursing? R-rated movies? Music selection?
And above all else I was trying to figure out what in the world does the Sunday school teacher mean when she says we need to have a quiet time. I heard her say you need to read your Bible, pray and maybe journal (is that like a diary?) but couldn’t see it. That is until I went to a women’s gathering in someone’s home and I saw for the first time someone model a quiet time….literally. The light bulb went off and I understood how to have a quiet time.
On Friday the 15th, I am going to do a short webinar on how to have a quiet time. But before that, here are three reasons why you need to start a quiet time habit:
1. It takes your Christianity from an experience to a relationship
2. It empowers you to walk in the power of the Spirit
3. It allows you to cast all your cares on the One Who cares for you
If the statistics are current, the majority of church attenders do not pray, read their Bibles or worship God from one Sunday worship service to the next. If that is the case you do not really have a relationship with Jesus you have a weekly experience in a building with others. And that experience is not all that it can be because you do not encounter God Monday through Sunday. Like any relationship, you have to spend time with one another to truly have a meaningful connection. A quiet time will allow you to develop that relationship.
As you spend time reading the Word of God in your quiet time, the Holy Spirit of God – the very power that raised Jesus from the dead – is stirred up. I am sure there is a more theological word for that but all I know is that when I read His Word or listen to His Word, my soul is stirred and I am empowered to do what He has called me to do. It is not really a feeling because many times I have not felt like being obedient yet I did it because I was almost compelled to do it. God’s grace is manifested through the reading of His Word and this grace is not a fuzzy, blue blanket you throw over sin but a tangible presence. A quiet time allows you to access that power.
As you pray to God (and for me I have to do this via journaling because I can be so distracted), you are able to lay all your cares before Him. No mask is necessary. No filter is required. Just raw emotions and worries to the only One who can truly do something about the care. And what I have found is that the very act of casting my cares provides peace to my soul. The care still exists but by handing it off to God, I no longer need to carry it. A quiet time allows you to release that burden.
So, why not start having a quiet time now? Like today? Like in the next 15 minutes? Just start reading your Bible and John 1 is a great place to start. Also, you can join me on Friday the 15th at 11 am EDT as I walk through my quiet time. Sign up here to be a part.
Who are You Influencing?
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One of my constant encouragements I say to myself and to my clients is, “Let’s live lives without any regret.” I have to say it often because almost daily there is something I regret (i.e. overeating, getting mad in traffic, spending too much on technology, etc.) Yet, we need to keep saying it because it allows us to live lives of intention.
Any internet search will show that most people’s dying regrets fall into three areas: worked too much, loved too little, and wore a “mask” (not an N-95 mask.) When we work too much we may gain financial security and words of affirmations from those around us but it is always fleeting. I remember when I moved to Texas for a new job. My salary was increased by XXX%!! As I cruised down Interstate 10 through Alabama, Mississippi, Louisiana, and into Texas in my new-to-me car, I thought, “With this salary, I will save so much money.” But you know what happened, I did not raise my savings level but my living level. And before I knew it what seemed like a fantastic salary become a standard salary.
And I have never had a boss say to me, “Great job!! Take the rest of the year off.” I have had some amazing bosses and I may have gotten a Friday off but guess what? I had to come back in on Monday and produce again. It was never enough.
What about loving too little? I think we see this most reflected in thinking we have more time to love on those people that matter to us. You miss a child’s ballgame because you know that there are 16 games in the season. Or you miss a visit with the in-laws because you will have the Thanksgiving visit. Or you travel 3 days every week for two years because NOW is the time to build the business. But before you know it, your child is heading off to college. Or your mother-in-law is diagnosed with breast cancer. Or you get home from the 30th trip of the year and the house is dark and there are divorce papers on the counter.
Lastly, when we wear a mask, we are really living a life of hypocrisy…duplicity…even lies. This leads to regrets related to unfulfilled dreams, unspoken words, and lost opportunities. We live lives that are based on others’ expectations (which we will never 100% satisfy.) We live lives that have no action because we are afraid of failure, rejection, or disappointment. We live in quiet desperation.
To assure a no regret life, the first place to examine are your roles. First, what roles do you play? Mother? Wife? Daughter? Friend? Aunt? Boss? Employee? Volunteer? Church member?
Which of these roles is most important? And yes you have to choose one! Then next in importance, etc. Then, ask how are you doing in those roles? Really give yourself a rating. And if you want to be bold, ask the person with whom you are in relationship with how you are doing?
Lastly, make a plan to improve that rating. I have created a worksheet to help you with this process. I would encourage you to save a copy so that you can work through this process again in 90 days.
Also, I will be doing a 15-minute Zoom meeting on Friday the 8th at 1 pm EDT on this topic. Click here to get all the details and the registration link.
Please know that if you need help in living a life of no regrets just reach out.
Take the First Step…The Second will Follow
/The first step in any journey of change or challenge is the hardest.
The Most Finite Resource
/I know you have heard it…I have heard it…everyone is talking about it. We hear it on the news, on our social media and a few of us may have said it. The President has referenced it. Memes have been made about it. And professional athletes are tik-toking about it.
